Catherine Connors knows a paradigm shift when she starts one. She is a mother, an academic, a writer, a marketing strategist. And when voices too long silenced began to reverberate in the mid-aughts, hers was among the first to signal a new era had begun. So here is what she thinks of the term mommy blogger: "I’m proud of being my children’s Mommy. And I’m proud of being a blogger – a writer – who has made a career out of reflecting upon the condition of her ‘mommy-ness’ and who has contributed to the tremendous and – yes – revolutionary movement that is mothers seizing the opportunity to own their stories and to create discursive space with those stories. I’m proud to be part of a community of women who work to lift the veil on the lifeworld that is motherhood, the lifeworld that has for the entirety of human history been kept hidden behind the walls of privacy and modesty and decorum, the lifeworld that has so long been kept at a remove from the public sphere and from public discourse." We are so proud to share her story.
1. Please describe yourself in ten words.
(I’m going to do this as ‘describe your parenting philosophy in ten words or less.’) Make them laugh, everyday.
2. Nobody ever told me parenting would require me to ...
Wear my heart outside of my body where it’s constantly exposed to the (emotional) elements. Lock the door when I go to the bathroom. Learn to color properly (you don’t know that you’ve been coloring wrong your entire life until you have a little girl who indignantly informs you of that fact whenever the crayons come out.)
3. Kids say the darndest things. One of the best things that ever came out of my child's mouth was ...
“Mommy, I know that I can’t say the word (**expletive**), but I think that if someone’s NAME is (**expletive**), I can, so you need to know that.”
4. My worst 2am moment with my child was ...
When I’m up at 2am with my child, I try to remember that I’m going to miss those times. That someday I’ll be waking up in a house without them, and will be willing give everything I have for the opportunity to hold them in my arms in the middle of the night once more.
5. My idea of perfect family happiness is …
Plunging into an adventure together – exploring a new landscape together or having a new experience together. Seeing the excitement light up in each other’s eyes.
6. What is the best parenting advice you gave or received?
That in parenting, sometimes the BAMN (By Any Means Necessary) Principle is the most important principle to remember. It doesn’t matter HOW you get them to sleep / get food in their belly / get them to stop fighting – there are no marks for ‘showing your work’ in parenting. Do what works. That it works* is all that matters.
*Within reason. Don’t use tranq darts on your children.
7. What is your favorite book to read with your child?
Seuss’s ‘Oh The Things You Can Do”
8. I would win the parenting award for ...
Most Likely To Make My Children Laugh
9. I would be put in the parenting penalty box for ...
Pulling out my camera (iPhone) to take pictures at the most awkward moments.
10. If your children were characters from fiction, who would they be?
My son: Peter Pan. My daughter: Pippi Longstocking / Harriet the Spy / Margot Tenenbaum
11. If your family had theme song, what would it be?
12. The title of the movie about your family life would be ...
How To Train Your Parent 2
The Twigtale Twelve - Catherine Connors was originally published on August 28, 2015. Modifications to style, arrangement, and linked sources were made on January 8, 2016.