We attended a lecture/discussion this week on Positive Parenting (click here for tips from Dr. Laura Markham on how to shift to a Positive Parenting approach). It was held at a local nursery school and was a great opportunity to hear from a licensed psychologist and expert in child development and also share stories with moms of preschoolers. Here are 3 quick takeaways from the session, and practical tips to employ in your day-to-day as you raise those little ones!
1. Remember the 5-to-1 rule. Try, as hard as it may be, to say 5 positive things to your toddler before you say the one more constructive thing you really want to say! By the time you search for and share 5 nice things, the last comment will sound so much nicer, and be much more well-received. Everyone laughed when the expert reminded us that this works on husbands, too.
2. Family Meetings are a great tool to ensure you are creating a healthy, happy, family communication dynamic. If your child can talk, they are old enough for a family meeting. Try holding it once a week, even just for 15-30 minutes to share any concerns, talk through challenges, and recognize the positive things that happened that week. The rule is to let people talk, uninterrupted, until they are done. Anyone can call the meeting and that person gets the floor. Even if it is your 3 year old sharing his concern for not getting enough candy, you need to come together to determine and discuss what is reasonable and work it out.
3. Really get to know your children as they grow up. Know their interests, and nurture the things they gravitate towards. Make sure you spend individual time with each child, which can be difficult when you have more than one! (Making Twigtale books like these titles to build identity and self esteem and reading them is a great activity to do together!)
We look forward to sharing more as we are out talking to experts, parents, and our community of Twigtale families.
Positive Parenting - 3 Quick Tips for Raising Toddlers was originally published on January 25, 2014. Modifications to style, arrangement, and linked sources were made on January 11, 2016.