The Dad I Am vs. The Dad I Want to Be

 The Dad I Am vs. The Dad I Want to Be

by Serge Bielanko

I guess the fatherhood bar was set low for me to start with.

From the time I was around 9 years old, my own father was gone from my life, disappearing into the night, not to be heard from again for the next two decades. So becoming a dad myself, I had very little to go on, really. I only knew the worst case scenario. And I only knew I wanted to be the opposite of that.

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Why I Kissed Play Dates Goodbye

Why I Kissed Play Dates Goodbye

by Lauren Hartmann

When I was a new mom, I was pretty clueless about all things parenting. Thankfully, I got a crash course in motherhood from friends (and the Internet). One thing I learned very quickly was that play dates were the new happy hour. It was a way for moms to get out of the house and hang out with other adults, while keeping the littles entertained. 

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The Tears Still Fall

The Tears Still Fall

by Allison Lefrak 

The Tears Still Fall was originally published on December 28, 2012 by MomsRising.org. It has been reprinted with permission. 

Two weeks after the shooting at Sandy Hook elementary school, I am struggling to determine the reasons why my feelings about it are still so raw. There is no other national tragedy that has affected me so deeply. 

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It's Harder Than I Thought to Make Friends as a Mom

It's Harder Than I Thought to Make Friends as a Mom

by Heather Neal

Motherhood is a lot of things, but what I least expected it to be was lonely. When my son was first born, I naively thought I was joining some sort of exclusive and in-demand club. I’d finally be able to do all the things my mom-friends did with their little ones! 

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I Don't Have "Just" One Child

I Don't Have "Just" One Child

by Victoria Fedden

I don’t get upset when someone asks why I only have one child. I just smile politely and explain to them (usually in a little more detail than they bargained for) that a million different variables simply didn’t add up in the right place and the right time for us to have a larger family.

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The Advice That Helped Me Decide to Have a Third Baby

The Advice That Helped Me Decide to Have a Third Baby

by Lauren Hartmann

When it came to having a family, I always knew I only wanted two kids. And if I’m going to be completely honest about it, I probably would have been pretty happy with just one. But since my husband had dreams of our own family soccer team, I thought two was a good compromise. With two, my children would have the special bond of siblings and I would still have most of my sanity.

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Practice Makes Perfect: Our Plan for Telling Our Daughter Her Adoption Story

Practice Makes Perfect: Our Plan for Telling Our Daughter Her Adoption Story

by Scott Effler and Geoff Gaspar

During our adoption journey, we took a “Preparation for Adoption” workshop. The workshop opened our eyes to a number of adoption-related concepts, but one of the aspects that really stuck out to us was a piece of advice about how to tell your adoption story.

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